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Title:Življenje s staršem, zasvojenim z alkoholom, skozi oči odraslega
Authors:ID Okorn, Jerica (Author)
ID Stepišnik Perdih, Tjaša (Mentor) More about this mentor... New window
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Language:Slovenian
Work type:Bachelor thesis/paper
Organization:FUDS - School of advanced social studies
Abstract:Slovenija je država, kjer iz vsake situacije naredimo priložnost za popivanje, pa naj bo to rojstvo, smrt, v žalosti ali sreči, v bolezni ali ob ozdravitvi, ob rojstnodnevnih praznovanjih, porokah, ločitvah. Odklonitev alkohola je v družbi pogosto označena kot šibkost. Izraženi meji, da imaš dovolj, sledijo vprašanja, kot so: “Ali ti žena/mož/partnerka/partner ne pusti? Enega pa še lahko.” Mnogo družin se posledično vrti v začaranem krogu zasvojenosti starša z alkoholom. Da lahko otroci odraščajo v tovrstnem okolju, med odraščanjem razvijejo določene miselne, čustvene in vedenjske vzorce, ki so jim omogočili, da v teh okoliščinah preživijo in se na njih prilagodijo. Mnogi izmed vzorcev jim lahko kasneje v odraslosti škodujejo oziroma jim otežujejo življenje. Zaznavamo, da se pri odraslih otrocih zasvojenih staršev pojavljajo podobne značilnosti in vedenja, kar smo raziskovali tudi v nalogi. Najpogostejše v naši nalogi so: pomanjkanje kakovostnih vzorcev delovanja, prikrivanje resnice oziroma laganje, želja po nadzoru, samoobsojanje, težko se sprostijo in zabavajo, sami sebe dojemajo zelo resno, v intimnih odnosih imajo pogosto težave, naloge težko dokončajo od začetka do konca, čutijo, da so drugačni od drugih, imajo velik strah pred zapuščenostjo in še nekatere druge. V družinah, kjer je bila prisotna zasvojenost, je pogosto prisotnega veliko strahu, sramu, krivde, žalosti, negotovosti, jeze, osamljenosti, konfliktov, ki otroku onemogočijo optimalen razvoj. V nalogi smo raziskali posledice zasvojenosti starša na družino in otroka ter njegovo odraslost. V raziskavo smo vključili 5 odraslih otrok zasvojenih staršev obeh spolov (3 ženske in 2 moška) v starosti od 20 do 40 let. V vseh primerih v našem vzorcu je bila naključno zasvojenost prisotna pri očetu. Ugotovili smo, da življenje z zasvojenim staršem na otrocih pusti posledice. Najpogosteje se kažejo ravno v odraslosti. V naši raziskavi so se kazale čustvene posledice, ki so bile plod fizičnega in psihičnega nasilja ? strah, sram in žalost. Prav tako so intervjuvanci pogosto prevzemali krivdo za stanje v družini. Pri vseh primerih smo zaznali tudi postaršenje otrok in zamenjavo vlog. Ne glede na vse pa vsi intervjuvanci v odraslosti na svojega starša gledajo drugače, kot so gledali nanj v otroštvu ? z več sočutja in razumevanja, a z zavedanjem, da dejanja zasvojenega niso bila primerna.
Keywords:Odrasli otroci zasvojenih staršev, zasvojenost z alkoholom, značilnosti odraslih otrok zasvojenih staršev, družina z izkušnjo zasvojenost z alkoholom, posledice zasvojenosti starša na odraslega otroka
Year of publishing:2023
PID:20.500.12556/ReVIS-9950 New window
Publication date in ReVIS:26.09.2023
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Language:English
Title:ADULT PERSPECTIVE ON LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOL ADDICTED PARENT
Abstract:Slovenia is a country where we convert every situation into an opportunity to drink, whether it's birth, death, sadness or happiness, illness or recovery, birthday celebrations, weddings, or divorces. Refusing to drink alcohol is frequently viewed as a sign of weakness in society. The expressed limit that you have had enough is followed by queries such as, "Does your wife, husband, or partner not let you drink? You can have one more''. As a result, many families are trapped in a vicious spiral caused by a parent's alcoholism. When growing up in this kind of setting, children form particular mental, emotional, and behavioural patterns that help them survive and adjust to their environment. We believe that many of the patterns can hurt young children or make life harder for them later in life. We discovered that comparable characteristics and behaviours arise in adult children of addicted parents, which we also examined in the course of our research. The most common that appear in our thesis are: lack of high-quality patterns of action; hiding the truth or lying; desire to control; self-judgement; finding it difficult to relax and have fun; taking themselves very seriously; often having problems in intimate relationships; finding it difficult to complete tasks from start to finish; feeling different from others; having a great fear of abandonment; and some others. Families with a history of addiction frequently experience a great deal of fear, shame, sadness, uncertainty, anger, loneliness, and conflicts that hinder the child's ability to develop to their fullest potential. In the thesis, we looked into the effects of a parent's addiction on the family and the child, as well as their adulthood. In the research, we included five adult children of addicted parents of both sexes (3 women and 2 men) aged 20 to 40. In all of the cases in our sample, the father suffered from an unintentional addiction. We discovered that living with an addicted parent has effects on children. They usually emerge in adulthood. Our research revealed the emotional consequences of physical and psychological violence, such as fear, shame, and sadness. Furthermore, the interviewees frequently blamed themselves for the family's situation. In all cases, we noticed the children assuming the roles of their parents or exchanging roles. Regardless, all of the adult interviewees regard their parents differently than they did as children—with more sympathy and understanding, but with the realisation that the addict's acts were inappropriate.
Keywords:Adult children of addicted parents, alcohol addiction, characteristics of adult children of addicted parents, family having experience with alcohol addiction, implications of a parent's addiction on an adult child


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